When divorce occurs involving an interfaith couple and a dispute arises regarding the right to custody, the
question emerges: Is Islam a condition for obtaining the right of hadanah for interfaith couples? Jurists (fuqaha')
have differing opinions on this matter, among which are the following:
According to the Hanafi scholars, Islam is not a condition for a non-Muslim woman to obtain the right
of hadanah, provided she meets other necessary conditions such as being sane, free, trustworthy in religion, and
so on, regardless of whether she is Muslim or non-Muslim and whether she is the mother, grandmother, etc.,
except if the woman apostatizes Noor, Z. (2019); Nasir, N. M., Zin, N. M., & Sitiris, M. (2021); Firdaus, F.
(2018).
Therefore, a non-Muslim mother has the right to custody of a Muslim child, whether male or female. Their right
is equal to that of a Muslim. However, they must be a dhimmi residing under an Islamic state. Otherwise, the
right of hadanah cannot be granted to non-Muslims.
In the book al-Dur al-Mukhtar wa Rad al-Muhtar by Ibn 'Abidin, it is stated: "A dhimmi woman, even if she is
a Magian, is like a Muslim woman in obtaining the right of hadanah as long as the child does not recognize
religion, i.e., around the age of seven, because his/her Islam is established at that time, or there is no fear of the
child inclining towards the mother's religion, such as being taken to places of worship, etc. If that occurs, then
the right of hadanah should be revoked even if the child does not yet recognize religion."
They argue based on the aforementioned hadith narrated by Abu Dawud in his Sunan. Additionally, they argue
that what is required in hadanah is affection, gentleness, compassion, mercy, patience, and so on. These qualities
do not differ based on difference in religion (al-Zuhayli, 1994, Vol. 10, p. 7306).
However, their scholars place two important conditions for a non-Muslim woman to obtain the right of hadanah:
1. As long as the child does not recognize religion, i.e., until the age of seven.
2. There is no fear of the child inclining towards the mother's religion.
If either of the above conditions is absent, the non-Muslim wife loses the right of hadanah, and the right should
be given to the eligible Muslim according to the hierarchical order of those entitled to hadanah (Zaydan, n.d.).
The Maliki school holds an opinion similar to the Hanafi school, that Islam is not a condition for obtaining the
right of hadanah over a Muslim child. The mother has a greater right to custody, whether she is Muslim or non-
Muslim.
However, they state that if there is concern about the child being exposed to the non-Muslim mother's religion,
it becomes obligatory upon Muslims to supervise the mother until the end of the hadanah period, which is
puberty for males, after which the child is handed over to the father or his substitute, such as the grandfather,
paternal uncle, etc. As for female children, they remain with their mother until they marry.
Al-Dardir mentions in his book al-Sharh al-Kabir that Islam is not a condition for obtaining the right of hadanah,
whether the custodian is male or female. If there is fear of the child being exposed to harm, such as being served
alcohol or pork, etc., then the child should be placed under the supervision of a Muslim (Zaydan, 1994, 10:35).
As for the Shafi'i and Hanbali schools, they hold that Islam is an essential and primary condition for obtaining
the right of hadanah over a Muslim child (male or female). Therefore, the right of hadanah should be granted
only to Muslims, whether male or female. According to al-Nawawi, if one of the parents is non-Muslim, their
right to hadanah is invalidated because a non-Muslim cannot care for a Muslim child (al-Nawawi, n.d., 17:326).
They argue that the purpose of legislating hadanah is to safeguard the child's best interests (maslahah).
Therefore, there is no maslahah for a Muslim child to be in the care of a non-Muslim, as the child is exposed to
trials concerning their religion, which is a great harm (al-Sharbini, 1995, 5:195).
If the child is non-Muslim due to following the lineage of a non-Muslim father, a Muslim still has the right to
custody over that child.