Cost of Connection: A Phenomenological Study of Gay Financial Abuse Experiences

This study explores financial abuse in gay relationships within Sinayawan and Laligan, Valencia City, Bukidnon, highlighting how financial control creates dependency and power imbalances. Financial abuse involves restricting access to money, monitoring expenditures, and sabotaging employment, often accompanied by psychological abuse, such as humiliation or isolation, making it harder for victims to escape. Using a phenomenological research approach, this study conducted semi-structured interviews with individuals who experienced financial abuse in same-sex relationships. Findings reveal that financial control is a common tactic, where partners limit access to funds or exploit their partner’s income, leading to long-term dependency and emotional distress. Many victims struggle to recognize the abuse or seek help due to social stigma and lack of support systems. This study concludes that financial abuse in same-sex relationships is an underreported issue requiring stronger legal protections, financial literacy programs, and tailored support services. Raising awareness and developing community based interventions are crucial in addressing this issue and helping victims regain independence. The study also underscores the role of cultural and community factors in shaping victims’ experiences, as limited financial resources and stigma often discourage reporting and seeking assistance. Insights highlight the urgent need for inclusive financial literacy programs, community based interventions. By amplifying the voices of those affected, this research provides a foundation for advocacy, education, and policy reforms that can empower victims to regain independence and rebuild financial security.

Gay men, Financial abuse, Psychological abuse

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