My Youth is Yours: Exploring the Complexities of Significant Age Gap - Relationships

This qualitative case study examines the experiences of Filipino couples in marriages where the woman is significantly older than the man, a relationship dynamic that remains understudied in the Philippine setting. Through semi-structured interviews with ten couples from Southern Cebu, the study explores the challenges they encounter, the dynamics within their relationships, and the coping strategies they use to navigate cultural and social pressures. Findings show that couples face family disapproval, social stereotyping, financial strain, jealousy, and concerns related to childlessness. Despite these difficulties, they rely on coping practices rooted in prayer, reassurance, emotional openness, humility, and shared routines. These strategies help sustain their relationship despite ongoing tension and external judgment. Themes of resilience, faith, and mutual support emerged, reflecting how Filipino values shape their ability to endure challenges. The study offers a culturally grounded perspective on age-gap marriages and illustrates how couples maintain stability within a context shaped by strong family and religious norms.

Age-gap relationships, marital resilience, coping mechanisms

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